Balance is a myth. You’re never going to ‘have it all,’ but you can have what actually matters
Today, we’re addressing a topic that resonates deeply with many of us: “Balance is a Myth. You’re Never Going to ‘Have It All,’ But You Can Have What Actually Matters.” If you’re a full-time working mom with a dream of starting your own business, you’re in the right place. Grab your favorite drink, settle in, and let’s explore how you can focus on what truly matters in your busy life.
The Myth of Balance
Let’s start by acknowledging the elephant in the room: the concept of balance. We often hear phrases like “you can have it all” or “find balance in your life.” But what does that really mean? For some, it might mean achieving a thriving career, a happy family, and a perfectly organized home. For others, it might simply mean getting through the day without feeling overwhelmed.
As a military spouse about to move across the country with my baby and dog, I can tell you that the idea of balance often feels elusive. I remember when I first started my business while juggling a full-time job and family responsibilities. It quickly became clear that the perfect balance I was aiming for was simply not realistic.
Focus on What Actually Matters
So, if balance isn’t the goal, what should we focus on? It’s all about prioritization. Here are some strategies to help you determine what truly matters in your life:
1. Define Your Values
Identify What Matters: Take a moment to think about your core values. Is it spending quality time with your kids? Growing your business? Taking care of your health? Write these down.
Align Your Actions: Once you know what your values are, let them guide your decisions. This clarity can help you say no to commitments that don’t serve your goals.
2. Make Choices, Not Compromises
Say No with Confidence: Every time you say yes to something, you are saying no to something else. If you decide to skip a meeting to work on your business, embrace that decision without guilt. It’s okay to prioritize what’s important to you.
3. Use the Shit Show Success System
My new group coaching program is designed to help you embrace the chaos of life while building your business. We focus on actionable steps that align with your values and help you achieve your goals without feeling overwhelmed.
Embrace Imperfection
Let’s remember that perfection is not the goal. Some days will go smoothly, and others will feel chaotic—and that’s completely normal! Here are some tips to help you navigate this journey:
Create a Flexible Routine: Life, especially with kids, can be unpredictable. Develop a routine that allows for flexibility, helping you adapt to whatever comes your way.
Celebrate Your Wins: No matter how small, take time to celebrate your achievements. Recognizing your progress helps reinforce that you’re moving in the right direction.
Build Your Support System
Surround yourself with supportive people who understand your journey. Whether it’s fellow moms, friends, or mentors, having a solid support system can make a significant difference. Share your struggles and celebrate your victories together.
Schedule ‘You’ Time
Don’t forget to carve out time for yourself. It doesn’t have to be elaborate—sometimes a quiet moment with a cup of coffee or a few minutes of reading can rejuvenate your spirit. Prioritizing self-care is not selfish; it’s essential for your well-being.
In closing, while balance may be a myth, focusing on what truly matters in your life is entirely achievable. Embrace the chaos, define your values, and leverage tools like the Shit Show Success System to navigate your path.
Remember, you’re not alone in this journey, and prioritizing what matters is a powerful step forward. You've got this!
